What is Blame It, Claim It,  Change It?

Everyone has cashed in or filled out a blame it ticket, and will do more if in a human body.  Feeling victimized, betrayed, abandoned, used, left out, objectified, lied to, stolen from or similar are part of being human. There are no new stories of being wounded.  People have been hurting others and blaming others since the beginning of time. Blame is a flashlight.  It shines the light on the wound.  What is exposed, vulnerable, open, bleeding and unsafe.  We can use blame not as the end but as a means to an end.

We use others as mirrors and teachers.  This is not to say that others do not have their own work to do and that what they did or did not do, should or should not do is not part of the picture.  There is an endless list we each keep of what others could and should do, no doubt we can see others better than they can see themselves.  We are their mirrors.   However, they get to choose when to look in that mirror and change or not.  This is not about the mirror we hold for others, but the mirror others are holding for us.   In this view, we are allowing, even gifting the other person(s) their own opportunity, their own growth and taking only what is ours.  We all know what it is like to stay in blame, waiting for other people to get their act together before we can be happy, content, safe, fill in the blank.

Blame it, Claim it, Tame it is about what you can do. What is in your control to change right now, if and when you are ready. Giving voice to your blame, telling the world how you were wronged or victimize is a critical piece of the process, but it will not get you to the end.  It shines the light on what you need you have that is not being met.  What are you feeling versus how do you want to feel?  Once you identify the feeling and need, name it, by naming it now you can claim it. You can focus on how to meet that need yourself and unplug from whom ever was holding the flash light.  No one really wants to do your work for you and you wouldn’t like how they did it anyhow, so quit asking them too.  You don’t really want to do others work for them, so quit diluting self love by focusing on and waiting for others to get their act together so you can be _________.

Once you have claimed what you need and begin to give it to yourself you tame it, change it.  You successfully move from an out of control blame energy to an in control claim energy to an empowered tamed or changed energy.  Blame it Claim it Change it – provides a place to be witnessed in the process of claiming your power, your wholeness.  And shifting from a victim energy to an empowered energy.   You are not broken, ever.

So go ahead, Blame it, Claim It and Change It!